Episode 56: Our Romance with Mindset Is Pissing Me Off

Synopsis

Do you know anyone in your life who’s just completely unhappy because they’re totally ungrateful? I don't! What I do see is that the biggest problems we face, such as guilt, shame, grief, and fear (anywhere from anxiety to panic) are often called mindset issues when a new mindset may help but not heal. That's why I say that we have a romance with mindset work and it's keeping us sick.

Approaching terrain where we have no experience, to address something hard that’s in a blind spot - that can be scary. It takes courage. “Where do I begin?” That question truly takes courage to ask. And this episode provides some insight to that question and more.

For everyone out there struggling with why "changing your mindset" hasn't helped, and suffering in the process, this episode may help!

Show Notes

Our romance with mindset work (evolving mostly throughout this century) is a costly distraction from what’s causing our pain: individual and collective.

What do I mean by this? I’m talking about the collective latching to the concept of and promise of "mindset work".

Do you know anyone in your life who’s just completely unhappy because they’re totally ungrateful?

Do you know anyone for whom this “should” of gratitude has just become another way to judge themselves?

Where's the rip cord to that experience? Where’s the remedy?

Mindset proponents aren’t offering one.

I’ll tell you what’s not a mindset issue: Guilt. Guilt isn't a mindset issue. Anxiety, depression, fear – these aren’t mindset issues.

There’s a bias that we have to want to hear good news. “Easy” sounds like good news. Quick, simple, topical - sounds like good news.

This bias can keep us stuck but not happy. This bias keeps us sick, mentally, emotionally, physically…

As long as it’s simple like the snap of a finger, we feel safe and secure.

“There’s nothing wrong with me.”

On the other hand, approaching terrain where we have no experience, to address something hard that’s in a blind spot - that can be scary. It takes courage.

“Where do I begin?” That question truly takes courage to ask.

The answer? The answers are literally inside of you, right in your own consciousness.

I believe this answer might be more encouraging than it sounds.

Your unconscious is already calling the shots right now - all we need to do is open up the channels of communication to translate the playbook into a language that you can hear, understand, acknowledge, and respond to.

For everyone out there struggling with why "changing my mindset" hasn't helped, I see you, I understand what you're going through, I WAS you.

Here's what’s going on:

Mindset can indicate success, but it can exist in the presence of other issues that need more than mindset to shift: such as trauma and other unconscious drivers.

Consider this: When the discussion stops at mindset, there's almost always something that's NOT included in the picture -

Either we're not comparing apples to apples (different circumstances, not equitable), or mindset is the Other's front-of-house, and there's a back-of-house that's not being welcomed into the discussion at all.

How and when and where we compartmentalize our lives and experiences as people are the exact Creators of suffering and all health issues.

If you or someone you love is struggling with WHY adjusting your mindset is not working for you, or with bringing actual healing to the situation, this information may bring some truth, relief, and LOVE into that picture.

Mindset has an important time, place and purpose. But I also believe mindset work is currently the biggest distraction to actual healing that our present age is seeing {freedom from mental, emotional, and physical challenges}.

Acknowledging there are differences between issues people are going through when recommending simple or easy solutions is as important as disclaiming #ad when promoting someone's service or product for money... I see this as part of ethical service and integrity.

It's vital for practitioners and coaches to understand what our lanes are, and for us as individuals to understand what others' lanes are when it comes to the scope of the problem they’re touting solutions for. This is a huge step forward in progress toward relief and resolution in and of itself.

So if you've come to suspect that "working on your mindset" is just a new, cleaner, bigger, maybe brighter and less obvious cage you've found yourself locked into, I want to encourage you: this cage is locked from the inside out.

Healing and raising your consciousness on the other hand won’t require you to constantly return to adjust, tweak, or effort a different intellectual or physical reaction to triggers.

This is what transcendence is really about.

I’ll leave you with this:

How do you know the difference between a mindset issue versus other issues that mindset work can’t touch?

The challenge needs more than mindset if:

1. The issue is automatically occurring despite your effort.

2. You already understand you're creating your own reality, but still have been unable to shift a thought pattern or patterned reaction.

3. Information hasn't helped.

Distinguishing mindset from deeper issues is crucial because as you’ve likely experienced at some point in your life, survival programming will continue until all the layers of consciousness (conscious, unconscious, body, etheric) release it and/or accept a new reality - not just one of them.

If you want to start facilitating this conversation within yourself on your own, grab this visualization tool (free, two clicks): palladiummind.com/meditation